Our expert says:
Maybe you should post this on the HIV forum, as it's not really a psychiatric question.
But if he insists on a condom, though that is responsible anyway, if his ex gf is very sick and has lost much weight, it's not witchcraft, and could well be AIDS, and if he did not use a condom wih her, there is a real reason to be concerned about HIV issues.
I think it is wise and indeed adviseable that anyone, man or woman, starting a serious relationship with someone, let alone considering marriage, should insist on HIV testing. For a partner to keep this secret is unjustifiable.
But ask on the HIV forum
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