Our expert says:
I never recommend counselling at a church, except by a fully trained counsellor or psychologist, trained in proper counselling rather than pastoral stuff - simple because thouigh they may handle the easy stuff much of the time, they are not properly trained to handle complex or difficult situations.
And if your spouse was prepared to lie to a church counsellor about his affair, then he clearly has little respect for you or the church or the counsellor.
"Forgiving" someone who has not genuinely repented and changed, is not merely a waste of time but actively encourages bad behaviour.
Counselling with a far more expert and experienced counsellor is still a good idea ; and trying hard not to get pregnant by an unfaithful and dishones man
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