Our expert says:
Boy, your story so well illustrates both the fairly inevitable problems of starting a relationship mwith so many factors against it ( do you really think his family would approve ? ) and the even more inevitable problems of an office romance, especially between a senior and more junior worker. It does indeed sound as though he used you, fairly cynically.
Counselling would be wise for you, though I don't know how available it would be where you work.
Consider this as a change for the better, and assume you will be able to get used to it as you have adjusted to other changes in your life.
Qwerty makes excellent sense - do seriously consider taking some pre-emptive action, such as talking this over off the record with your boss, not to allow the little squirt to become more malicious and try to unseat you. It would be so easy for him to play the innocent and represent you as the predator.
And yes, you can ignore him out of work, and should talk quietly wit him at work insisting that he treat you with the normal respect, as you will treat him. You can't allow him to dominate you at work or in meetings.
In dealing with your sense of loss, try not to focus on the loss of what you THOUGHT you had ( which actually you never did ) but on the reality that you have discovered a louse for what he is, and have lost much, much less than it feels like.
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