Posted by: help | 2009-07-16

Big problem, please help

Hallo there
I am married for 3 years to a great husband. He just have 1 big problem. He doesn’ t clean himself properly after going to the toilet. We both are suffering from constant infections and I think this is the reason for it. I am now to afraid to have sex with him, because this infections is getting to me now. I am just recovering from the last infection with the help of antibiotics.

Please help, this is to embarrassing to speak to any one, what can I do?

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You ongoing infections could definitely be cuase by bad hygene. You have no choice but to discuss this with him and sort it out- unfortunately I dont think anyone can do it for you....cause on you know. just tell him that you do not like body odors and it puts you off - that should get the ball rolling

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Posted by: help | 2009-07-20

Thank u every one for all the suggestions.

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Posted by: Lee | 2009-07-19

I am 30 years old, female, and have no sexual desire. I' m in a long term relationship, but we have never slept together. Don' t get me wrong, I don' t believe in sex before marraige, but I have no urge or desire to do it. Believe me, I want to have the desire to have sex with him!!!! I' m starting to worry that he' s going to ask me to marry him and what happens then? I do love him and want to please him (and myself). What can I do? Is there a sexologist that one can see? Is there any solution to this?

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Posted by: Anon | 2009-07-17

Or just explain/tell him it' s a huge turn-off... Goodluck and be positive!!!

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Posted by: Anon!! | 2009-07-17

Starve him :)

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Posted by: JA | 2009-07-17

TELL him!

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Posted by: Anon!! | 2009-07-17

I think just try doing it diff...
As the previous person mentioned.. start by taking a shower together, but YOU must wash him up :)...
And hey if he done like the idea of being clean..
Dont give him -|- ....

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Posted by: Claudia | 2009-07-16

Suggest that he uses water whenever using the loo..keep a jug in the toilet for convenience.also, wet wipes are great for ensuring that he cleans must speak to him about this because you are both suffering.

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Posted by: Sam | 2009-07-16

How about telling him that he needs to clean better. Don' t attack him about it, just menion it as if it were a once off thing that you noticed...
He should be more attentive towards his hygiene thereafter.
I know I would!

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Posted by: Anonymous | 2009-07-16

Use codoms so that he can keep his germs to himself.

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Posted by: ...... | 2009-07-16

vuilgat!!!!sies man....he still a baby or what!!!!!sies man!!!

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Posted by: Joncwin | 2009-07-16

Maybe try foreplay in the shower or bath. Start by washing him first.

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