Our expert says:
Maybe he feels he owes a great deal to his birth family, who helped to make him the success he now is ( and he talks about the signs of such sucess to re-asure himself ) ; and he wants to show his appreciation towrds them --- that'd be something admirable if he did. You perhaps see yourself as a much larger part of his life than he does at this stage. You've been a friend for 9 months, they have been vital to his life for perhaps 9, 19, or 29 years.
He has told you how much he wants to look after his future wife --- that doesn't mean you should expect those elabirate and generous gifts right now.
Do NOT "confront" him, which is an act of needless aggression which induces defence behaviours rather than something useful for you. But talk gently with him about how you feel puzzled, and rather than talking about him not rewarding you generously, talk about feeling a bit insecure and wondering how he views the long-term prospects of this relationship.
And are you concerned about the relationships and its prospects, or that you aren't receiving more material gifts and overseas trips ? If the latter, you will sound more mercenary than relationship oriented
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