Our expert says:
Water should be good enough - although not everyone does douche before anal sex. Beware of other products, your anal passage is highly sensitive and absorbtive, so if you are going to use anything, just use water. That said, you will need to ensure that he washes off his penis after penetration (or removes a condom) before penetrating the vagina.
Regarding the position, it would make sense for you to be in as much 'control' as possible so that you can determine the pace of the penetration. Try with you kneeling on the bed and him standing up so that if you need to pull away to control the penetration, you can. You are in better control of the pace and depth of penetration in that position (as long as he will listen to your requests); you can try others from there.
Claire - SASHA (www.sexualhealth.co.za)
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