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Posted by: Net ekke | 2011/11/01

Besitlikheid

My man verneuk/soek vroue om mee ye chat op internet. Ek vertrou hom nie meer nie. Hy beskuldig my dat ek besitlik is omdat ek nie wil he dat hy op dating sites met vroue chat sonder dat ek daarvan weet nie.
Is ek verkeerd om hom nie die ruimte te gun om vrouens (selfs oor die kleurgrens) te nooi om met hom oor seks te gesels nie?

Hy het my voorheen verneuk en as ek weg is van hom, bel hy vreemde vroue op en chat tot n uur met hulle.
Gee asb raad.

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Is he really expecting to get away with persuading you that YOU are being unreasonable for objecting when he wants to chat up other women on the internet ? Maybe he has a really low image of himself, and feels more confident when they can't see him, but that's no justification.
Chatting about sex with other people is not being faithful to your spouse - it's cheating, even i it has the single advantage that its safe sex compared to the old-fashioned way.
Would he really think it fine for you to do the same, or for you to flirt with other men in the mall or in a restaurant ?
You may need to put your foot down, and make it clear that either he sincerely joins you in marriage counselling and sorts this out, or you consult a mean lawyer instead

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Posted by: ekke weet | 2011/11/01

die waarheid is dat hy gaan nie stop nie, en hoe langer jy in die huwelik gaan bly hoe erger gaan dit word, dis duidelik vir my dat hy waardeer en respekteer nie wat hy het nie.

laat hom gaan en probeer jou lewe weer bymekaar kry en gaan aan.

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Posted by: Romany | 2011/11/01

Ek stem 100% saam met Chris 758. Ju man het absoluut geen reg om dit te doen nie. Stel vir hom ''n altumatum. Of hy hou dadelik op of hy vat sy goed en trek.... hy behoort mos baie plekke he om na te trek, met al die vrouens wat hy ken.
Ek nog n ding... so iets hou nooi op met net " chat"  nie

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Posted by: Chris758 | 2011/11/01

Send him packing.....no one has the right to chat and meet other people if they are married!! If you are in an open marraige I suppose that is different although I do not uderstand the open marraige arrangement!!

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011/11/01

Is he really expecting to get away with persuading you that YOU are being unreasonable for objecting when he wants to chat up other women on the internet ? Maybe he has a really low image of himself, and feels more confident when they can't see him, but that's no justification.
Chatting about sex with other people is not being faithful to your spouse - it's cheating, even i it has the single advantage that its safe sex compared to the old-fashioned way.
Would he really think it fine for you to do the same, or for you to flirt with other men in the mall or in a restaurant ?
You may need to put your foot down, and make it clear that either he sincerely joins you in marriage counselling and sorts this out, or you consult a mean lawyer instead

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