Our expert says:
I know the type. You never meet one when you're lonely or bored and would like a chatterer, do you ?
One, you could enlist the help of anyone else who regularly uses that train and carriage, and beg them to sit with you and not budge, so there's no room for Ms BigBek. When she comes, just shrug and smile.
Two, just be direct. Say something lime :"I'm sure all his is very fascinating, but I'm afraid I have a lot on my mind for work which I have to concentrate on, and so I'm not available for talking. Sorry. " And if he doesn't take the hint, just say firmly, "Please, I asked you to leave me out of your conversation - I have stuff I really need to think about / read ... and can't concentrate."
Three, there's probably no need to actually listen to anything she says, as she probably wants to talk much more than she wants to be heard. Drop in the odd "Uh-huh", and "Oh really ?" and let her drviel on.
Four, you don't have to buy an Ipod or such gadget, but get anything with earphone ( preferably ) or ear buds, and plug them in. The dadget doesn't even have to work. But it'll cut down the volume of her chat, and again, smile, point to the earphones, and shrug as though you can't here her. It need not BE an Ipod, just to look like some audio gadget.
People who are as rude as she is being, don't really deserve people who are polite back, so don't feel absolutely driven to be polite.
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