Our expert says:
Clearly, you have a marvellous and admirable mother, who has coped, and helped you cope, with many crises. One's ability to cope is ofrten reduced as one grows older, and losing a spouse at all, let alone where there's been a long and strong relationship, can be very difficult indeed.
I'm pleased that she was seen and assessed by a psychiatrist, but if one of them tried genuinely to "force her to weep" he was behaving like a quack and irresponsibly using a method NO competent expert on grief or psychiatry would ever recommend. I am shocked to hear of such nonsense !
In the early days, it can be difficult to distinguish between major grief, and a depression, but after all this time, this sounds like either a severe depression, or a complicated grief, or a combination of both these conditions. Antidepressants might help, but I'd think skilled psychitherapy from an experienced psychologist would help ( and if he also wants to force her to weep, sack him !)
What you further describe, in terms of the over-valuation of this new man she has met, and the belief that God has promised him to her ; and especially this physically driving round looking for her dead husband and parents, could well be an indication that the grief and depression has reached psychotic proportions, as a severe depression can do ; but it should still respond to proper treatment.
Obviously she is still loved by you and your family, and its not simply "love" that she's missing, but the specific love of the specific people she has lost.
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