Our expert says:
Sigh Your partner seems to be spoiling him and undermining any sense of discipline in the home. It is abusive to spoil a child, and to deny him a proper code of conduct, with clear conssequences for behaving well or badly. I wonder why your partner feels so driven to spoil the kid ? Is he trying to buy his affection ?
Immediately stop covering up for him --- that only reinforces the message he gets that he can and should get away with anything. STOP buying him whatever he wants. See a child psychologist who can assess the lad, and try to get your partner to join you to work out a JOINT program of discipline, rules and consequences for the buy. If he wants ANYTHING AT ALL, he must earn it by consistent good behaviour.
Why does he do this ? Because you and your partner are teaching him to do this, and rewarding him for doing it.
If he wants things, let him keep to the rules and do chores round the house to EARN money to buy what he wants --- then if he loses them, he'd have to work harder to earn to money to replace them --- I'll bet he wouldn't lose stuff so easily
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