Our expert says:
Actually, the French have a term for that. They speak of "pensees d'escalier", the bright comments you think of when you're going down the stairs afterwards, rather than at the time !
I much like Queen's comments, that being tongue tied during arguments may be an advantage - more people come to grief from blurting out the wrong thing in an argument, than from not saying something clever. And thinking before talking is always a good idea.
Now, CBT style counselling can help a good deal in general and with assertiveness and social anxiety.
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