Our expert says:
Its understandable that you feel embarassed, but clearly you need to talk about this - you can't keep it a secret, because she heard much of it and saw some of it, and her imagination may make it seem even worse than it was.
lets see what other readers have to say here. I'd think you should approach it directly, saying that you feel very embarrassed about what happened, and that you know it could be bothering her - ask what she feels or thinks about it, and explain the argument in general terms ( the details are not so relevant to her ). Explain that sometimes even people who really love each other have serious arguments about things that make them very angry or sad, and that then they find a way to work these things out between them, and maybe things get better between tham than before.
Consider mariage counselling if this is a serious issue you and your husband find hard to sort out between you, and the counsellor might even suggest a couple of sessions your daughter could join in, to help her understand.
If you try to pretend it all didn't happen, you get what we call the Horse on the Dining-Room Table situation - it's as though a family gets together to eat supper, and finds a large horse sitting on the table, and everyone pretends i isn't there - whatever else they try to talk about, all any of them could think about, would be the horse.
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