Our expert says:
I'm a little confused; it sounds as if from your perspective vaginal penetration is uncomfortable, yet your b/f is describing what sounds like relative ease to penetrate... You are right that the vagina is elastic and it cannot 'stretch out of shape' very easily - and certainly not just through penetrative intecourse! (several vaginal deliveries CAN impact, but even then exercising the pelvic floor muscles can correct this). In the same way, if those muscles are too tense, you may feel discomfort on penetration. You may need to learn to relax those muscles to make penetration more comfortable (make sure your inside thigh muscles don't tense up, push down on your pelvic floor muscles as though you are trying to push something out - like rushing a week or pushing a tampon out).
As for the anal sex...it's up to you whether or not you want to try this. In defense of not having a 'too tight vagina' - it sounds as if your b/f is used to high levels of friction in order to reach his orgasm; he needs to readjust to a gentler (but still firm) grip of a lubricated vagina and he can still experience significant pleasure.
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