Our expert says:
Are you ungrateful ? Is HE ungrateful ?
Frankly, the usual sort of arrangement ( and its how maintenance is calculated if a couple split up ) is for each spouse to contribute to the total costs IN PROPORTION TO THEIR EARNINGS. So if he earns 3 times more, he should pay in 3 times more as his share.
It gets complex because he is paying towards the existing bond - and its not "your" house, though again, in the event of a divorce, you might be expected to share part of the proceeds if it were sold. But you ay he has formally left it to his sister, which is hardly a generous way to take care of his wife.
You're not a loser at all, and as he p[resumably has a load more money left over each month compared to you, frankly I have never heard of a husband expecting his wife to pay for her own drinks or admissions when he's there.
Maybe marriage counselling would be a good idea ( if he could agree on how to share that cost !). He's mean, yes.
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