Our expert says:
Isn't it interesting, that you feel ( what ? ashamed ? ) for people to see you sad, but not for them to see you angry ? Is anger more admirable than sadness ?
As you describe your usual way of handling such situations, it really doesn't sound like a useful technique. See a counsellor to work on sorrow and anger and better ways of handling both.
Pointing out faults or the ways one may cause problems for oneself or others isnt necessarily "judging", not is "judging" necessarily a bad or unhelpful or unkind thing.
I find it curious that "DOn't JUDGE me!" has become such a popular excuse to evade responsibility for ones choices and actions, at the same time that people love watching Reality TV and Game shows, in which contestants / participants are severely "judged" and cast out, "sent home", "evicted" and otherwise eliomintated. Judging, often unfairly and with prejudice is a central element of these popular programs.
Anyhow, take a break, as siggested, and consider seeing a counsellor to do exactly what you realize you need to do, to deal directly and successfully with the specific things that are troubling you.
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