Our expert says:
The straight forward answer is to suggest that you use PLENTY of lubricant and ask the person to go slowly. The anus is not meant to be penetrated sexually, it is a learned skill to relax the sphincter and can take time and practice. Some people use their finger and then sex toys to train the anus to relax sufficiently.
The other response relates to my concern that you feel that you will 'subjected' to doing anything that you don't really want to do and that you feel in some way under pressure to 'be a good sport'. Are you sure you are okay with this? Furthermore, do you have all the information you need? You are aware that the lining of the anus is much more fragile than the vagina and can be torn/damaged by vigorous thrusting. The lining of the anus is not self-lubricating, this is another reason to use plenty of lubricant as to much friction can result in abrasions. The lining of the anus is very absorbtive, this means that any STI will be more easily absorbed into the body via anal sex if condoms aren't used. Finally, you should not have the same penis/object penetrate you vaginally or orally without cleansing after anal sex because of the possibility of bacterial infection.
Consider carefully what you want for yourself, and I struggle to imagine that your 'friends' would have a problem with you saying 'no' to something...enjoy but take care of yourself.
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