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Posted by: Confused | 2010/06/23

Am i wrong?

My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year. When we argue i don''t stay angry at him for long because i try to avoid the arguments carrying on longer than necessary...it''s stupid arguments most of the time. But when i ask people for advice they tell me that i shouldn''t just forgive him and i should be stubborn and not reply to his messages and not phone him...that kind of thing. But i''m not sure if i fully agree with that, i''m not a child anymore, i don''t have time for games...am i wrong in thinking about it that way?

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It is worth aiming at RESOLVING arguments more than avoiding them in other words, yes, avoid those that are uttterly pointless, but where they are actually about something significant, try to learn to reach a mutual and satisfying decision, rather than leaving the issues dangling.
Don't let people encourage you to be childish o spiteful If there are indeed uncomfortably many petty arguments, consider couples counselling together, to improve your problem-solving skills as a couple

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2010/06/23

It is worth aiming at RESOLVING arguments more than avoiding them in other words, yes, avoid those that are uttterly pointless, but where they are actually about something significant, try to learn to reach a mutual and satisfying decision, rather than leaving the issues dangling.
Don't let people encourage you to be childish o spiteful If there are indeed uncomfortably many petty arguments, consider couples counselling together, to improve your problem-solving skills as a couple

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