Our expert says:
Sounds like she is indeed spoiled, and that your attenpts at discipline are rather disorganized and random. Maybe seing a counsellor would help you to plan a realistic and consistent and effective code of conduct for her.
Don't be hurt that your boyfriend is sensible enough not to allow a kid to manipulate and try to control him - you should not be allowing and encouraging her to do so with him or with you. It also sounds as though she is trying to control even the relaionship between you and your bf.
My blood chills when I read " Am I not allowed to spoil my only girl?" NO ! That's why it is called SPOILING - it makes her a selfish, undisciplined ugly and unpleasant child. You should love her enough NOT to spoil her. Spoiling is not a way of loving a child, it is a way of not respecting her, and teaching her not to respect others. TO decide to "focus only on your daughter" could spil her even more.
Your task is to be a good mother, a good parent, not a fawning, obsequious, obedient servant or friend.
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