Our expert says:
Maybe he's a reasonably good father ( though being a really good father includes never being abusive towards the mother ). And what you're describing is already abusive, and potentially criminal assault. No court with any sense would consider giving child custody to an abuser. Have your assault and wounds photographed if possible, and witnessed and placed on record.
Aparently you have yourself genuinely tried therapy with and without him, and he has not accepted it in a sufficiently sincere way for there to be any way
Almost all abusers CAN be pleasant AT TIMES, when it suits them. But that's not enough to justify remaining with them. Consult a group like POWA which exists to help the abused.
It would indeed be ideal for your child to grow up with a loving mom and dad, but the dad is deficient in loving and cannot provide that. It is NOT good for a child to grow up in a family where women get abused, and men get away with that
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