Our expert says:
This sort of pattern is quite common in people, who ( paradoxically, you might think ) secretly have a rather LOW opinion of themselves, and try to make themselves feel bigger, by not only puffing themselves up, but putting other people down, directly or indirectly.
Now, if you try to tell her to see someone ( however much that might benefit her and everyone else who has to put up with her showing of ) of course she would not see anyone. Unless she could be persuaded that, as in some American communities, seeing a shrink and getting counselling is terribly cool and special.
Sometimes, you can frustrate them by seeing which way their wind is blowing, and getting there before them - if they're starting to complain about their life being more oawful than yours, agree and go further - tell her you feel ashamed for even mentioning your problems in the presence of someone who deals so bravely with such awful burdens, and how you really don't want to take up any more of her valuable time talking about your problems or even hers, as she obviously needs all the time she can get in order to deal bravely with her troubles.
Or, when she starts to brag, out-brag her, but about herself, not you ( so she can't disagree ) - remind her that while whatever she's boasting of today is outstandingly great, you can't forget what she was talking about yesterday, which is so outstanding you kept remembering it all through the night - and could she tell you more about THAT.
Appear totally sincere, and give no hint that you are mocking her, and it could spoil all her fun in boasting
And I've met more than a few computer programmers like that - I wonder if they get special lectures on how to do this ?
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