Our expert says:
Its a difficult and complex situation. I dont remember seeing your postings of your story. But if your wife persistently refused or avoided having sex with you, she can hardly be surprised if eventually you tried having sex with someone else. Its not a question of who is to be blamed, but of how the situation arose.
Very few men would have accepted a sexless marriage nor stayed within it for 11 years. Obviously it would have been far better for both of you to have become involved in marriage counselling and other professional help to sort out the sexlessness of the marriage, long ago.
Do not take your own life, as there are surely responsibilities you still need to fulful, and aspects of life you will still be able to enjoy.
DO see a counsellor or psychologist ASAP to discuss these issues in depth and find the best way to deal with them. Maybe in part, your facing your problems and going for proper help will emphasize to her that this is the responsible way to deal with such issues.
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