Our expert says:
Indeed, as pregnancies lasting lopnger than a year are really not credible, the impregnation must have occurred less than a year ago, and thus, presumably, after he had declared the affair to be over.
Though far too many psychobabblers insist we must always forgive everyone who hurts us, whether or not they are truly regretful and remorseful, and whether or not they are likely to repeat the offence, I absolutely do not agree with those daft and naive views.
And there is no simple recipe for "forgiveness".
In the situation you describe, it is essential to understand what has been happening, and what is the current and likely future situation before rushing into premature forgiveness and enabling him to potentially continue to cheat.
Surely a wise first step would be to insist that he join you, sincerely, in marriage counselling with an experienced counsellor, to explore the situation and depth, and to decide what sort of response on your side would be most sensible and beneficial, and what sort of response can reasonably be expected from him ?
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