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Generally, drugs don't help self-cutting, though talking therapies and counselling DOES help. I did some major earlier research into cutting and how it happens, etc. I wonder, if you didnt cut before your hospital admission, whether you found out about it from one or more other patients ?
Cutting is a method some people adopt at some times in their lives, which can produce some temporary relief when they either feel profoundly angry or tense, or when, like a blown fuse, they have switched instead to feeling a dead nothing. There are obvious problems with the technique, as you are discovering. The relief is only temporary, and it leaves ugly marks, that will last much longer than your distress, and will in turn cause problems of their own. And it really unpleasantly disturbs other people, who are deeply upset by it, and get frightened. Especially those who love you and care for you, as it seems something so awful, which they badly want to help with and prevent, and yet can't think of anything to do about.
Sleeping pills interfere with one's ability to form memories, so one may lose important information about such things which happened while under their influence, information you may want and need.
I'm sure your mom feels very worried about you, but not let down by you, wanting only the best for you. Between you, you will fix this set of concerns. Your intelligence and caring nature is obvious from your brief message. You can and will sort this out. But make sure you discuss this with your mom, and that you get to see a good psychotherapist / counsellor used to working with young people, who can help you to work things out effectively and efficiently.
I understand that you have been feeling bad at having discovered that your dad cheated on your mom, but please don't let this turn you to despair or giving up. Its all the more important that you gradually enable yourself to get things right and become strong again, so that you can be a support for your mom, as you want to be ; and so you can reconcile eventually with your dad.
You say you "partically hate" him, and I understand that. The useful way I found to put it into words, is that you may love a person ( so feel all the more disappointed when they act foolishly or wrongly ) but you hate the act, you hate what they did. You can help them to atone for what they did, and to more beyond whatever happened, and not to act in that wrong way again.
These are huge issues to grapple with, for anyone at any age, let alone a guy of 16 who is still discovering the world, its good and bad aspects.
A counselor can help you work out the best way to deal with all these elements. I don't think your mom distrusts you ; maybe she actually distrusts herself, feeling bad at not being able to fully reach you and comfort you and help you, and perhaps worrying that her own natural reactions to her discovery of the cheating msy have caused you damage. I'm sure she will be delighted to help you return to better than your previous normal, which is something you really can achieve. And maybe it's your dad who feels most strongly the need to redeem himself, perhaps feeling that he has caused damage to you and his wife, people he really loves, by some stupid and selfish actions. One needs to allow people the chance to redeem themselves.
I was one of those who, years back, developed the "elastic band round the wrist" thing ; and sometimes also use the method of using a Washable (!) red felt-tip pen to draw slashes across one's wrist that can be removed, rather than being permanent. These methods can help, along with counsellign to work on the emotionally laden issues, and finding a way to more comfortably break out of the awful moods that lead you to think of cutting.
You can do this, and I respect your determination to work these things out. Do feel free to keep in touch on the forum and let us know how things gradually work out.
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