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Posted by: that girl | 2011-12-02

abuse or not?

In your opinion is it “  abuse”  when a 10 or 11 year old girl is being sexually fondled by an adult and accepts treats for not telling anyone? This then goes on for years and the fondling turns into more and the treats get bigger. Is this abuse and say this girl never told a soul in her life. And now at an older age is thinking if this is maybe the reason for her low self esteem.

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How could you for even a moment imagine that this wasn't abuse ? Of course it is, and should be reported to the police. You'd need legal advice, though, on issues like the statute of limitations, if this all stopped a long time ago, and if there is no corroborating evidence ( so it's a she says / he says conflict ) which might make it hard to prosecute. But even police inquiries might discourage him if there's any possibility he might be abusing other children.
Low self-esteem and other effects are very credible, and the individual should seek individual counselling / psychotherapy.

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Our users say:
Posted by: Anon | 2011-12-07

Yes It is an abuse. I guess there is nothing you can do now as you''re old and I assume this happened long time ago, except if you still share the moments.

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Posted by: CHARLY | 2011-12-02

Dear Lord of course it''s ABUSE!!! NO REALLY - CAN YOU EVER!

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Posted by: Phil | 2011-12-02

What a bloody stupid question? YES IT''S ABUSE  PHONE THE COPS FOR GOD SAKE!

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Posted by: Mommy | 2011-12-02

It is definitely abuse.

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Posted by: XXX | 2011-12-02

Yes it is definately abuse .....

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011-12-02

How could you for even a moment imagine that this wasn't abuse ? Of course it is, and should be reported to the police. You'd need legal advice, though, on issues like the statute of limitations, if this all stopped a long time ago, and if there is no corroborating evidence ( so it's a she says / he says conflict ) which might make it hard to prosecute. But even police inquiries might discourage him if there's any possibility he might be abusing other children.
Low self-esteem and other effects are very credible, and the individual should seek individual counselling / psychotherapy.

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