Our expert says:
Aparently you acted responsibly and cleverly, and freed yourself from a situation in which this noxious individual was managing you - well done. But now it appears that you have not stopped giving yhim a high degree of power over you ( he has none excepty what you choose to give him ) There was no need to spend time crying and rehearsing whatever nasty things he had done in the past - that was surrendering before he had even tried to attack. In a sense, you took over from him the role he may once have had, and started abusing yourself on his behalf !
If, as you say, he was removed from a management position and other people have also complained and left, he may have a basis for feeling even more embittered and ugly than he did have. But rehearsing conversations that didn't actually occur, in which you enable him to abuse you without even needing to speak a word, really is doing his ugly work for him, isn't it ?
Stop telling yourself that you CAN'T just ignore him. You haven't done so, but i9t really isn't impossible. Repeatedly telling yourself that it is so, is what makes it so.
He sounds like a selfish character, and from how you describe the unreasonable working conditions at the time o your miscarriage, he'e not the only incompetent manager in your organization - such working conditions should never be needed or tolerated if the higher management are competent.
If they fell for his transparently self-serving tactics to get himself that position, earlier, then they're fools, aren't they ?
Can't you discuss this with HR and with more senior managers, who need to recognize this worm for what he is ?
You don't need to sink back into depression. Seeing a good local psychologist for CBT ( Conitive-Behaviour Therapy ) style counselling would be useful in building psychological immunity to worms like him, and developing skills in handling such situations, and building up your self-confidence and self-esteem.
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