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Posted by: confused | 2011/04/09

Abortion

My girlfriend is pregnant.Due to various reason i asked her to abort.She is not willing to abort.This is frustrating me and stressing me out.Am i sick to consider abortion.

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Not sick, but confused. YOu are, as Maria wisely points out, not willing to face the consequences of the actions you chose. If you have unprotected sex with someone, there's a reasonable chance that there will be a pregnancy. Even with "protected" sex there's a chance.
As she says, if you ( anyone to whom it applies ) are not ready to be a good parent, don't have sex.
And your viewpoint sounds selfish - an abortion or birth affects not merely you, but your girlfriens ( who has a perfect right to refuse ) and the child to be. It's not just about you.
As you are confused, maybe see a counsellor to help you explore all aspects of the situation, and get un-confused ?

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Posted by: Realist | 2011/04/10

Guys, killing a human being is the intentional killing of a human being with intent to kill= MURDER. If you go ahead, you WILL suffer for the deed down the line, for sure.

Abortion, for many years, before the PC/Bleeding Heart/Liberal brigade came to the fore, was restricted to some meaningful circumstances, ie pregancy as the result of rape. measels, incest to name a few.

Now we have degenerated into a weak without morals, pleasure seeking, selfish society where because of a careless, thoughtless irresponsible act we are prepared to destroy a life. It sickens me !! Where on earth can anyone condone a 12 year old getting an abortion without even consulting their parents ? We are living in a crazy world people and we will pay for it, or some of us will !!

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Posted by: Nadia | 2011/04/10

Spot on Maria. Confused, you cannot force your girlfriend to abort. At the end of the day, the physical and mental hurt lies on her and it could affect your relationship VERY badly. Do yourself a favour and read up on the process and ask yourself if you want to make your girlfriend suffer that if she doesn''t want to. It''s not as easy as just taking at few pills and boom, the problem goes away. You don''t mention the reason why you don''t want this child, but perhaps if you do readers will be able to give you some more help. Rethink this- as someone said in another post children are addictive and you may change your mind. Oh, to answer your actual question, you are not sick to consider abortion but it is not cool to force the subject. And just a warning, some people here may be VERY nasty to you but ignore them as they use the anonymity of this site to be morons.

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011/04/10

Not sick, but confused. YOu are, as Maria wisely points out, not willing to face the consequences of the actions you chose. If you have unprotected sex with someone, there's a reasonable chance that there will be a pregnancy. Even with "protected" sex there's a chance.
As she says, if you ( anyone to whom it applies ) are not ready to be a good parent, don't have sex.
And your viewpoint sounds selfish - an abortion or birth affects not merely you, but your girlfriens ( who has a perfect right to refuse ) and the child to be. It's not just about you.
As you are confused, maybe see a counsellor to help you explore all aspects of the situation, and get un-confused ?

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Posted by: Maria | 2011/04/09

No you are not sick. Abortion is a very contentious subject on which the opinions are very varied and personal. What you are is someone who had sex but isn''t willing to face the consequences. It would appear that in this case the consequence is going to be a baby, and that you are going to be a parent. Congratulations. Now go out there and spread the word that you must always use protection when having sex, and even that isn''t foolproof. So if you can''t deal with being a parent, don''t have sex.

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