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Posted by: Wessel | 2017/12/15

Wife away for 4 months

Hi daar, Ek bekommerd nou raak, ek kannie ingoreer nie. My vrou weg al 4 maand, Laas 2 weke laaste kontak tot nou nog niks nie, sy my blok en nie terug antwoord nie, ek weetie of sy is in veilig plek. sy woon by iemand, elke keer se bly by iemand, dan maak my stress, weetie of hulle speel ons gevoelens en ek stress, ek kannie slaap nie, gewoonlik ek doen verandwoordelik sorg vir haar en ons kinders, ek kry nie haar kontak, moet ek reportdeer na Polisie vir haar soek of wat is beste opsie om te doen?

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- 2017/12/15

Hi Wessel,
If you have family, they presumably know you and your wife and whatever has been going on : discuss this situation with them and get their advice.
Surely it can't be a total mystery as to why your wife has left you, or where she is ? She's been gone for 4 month, but accepted contact from you until 2 weeks ago ?  What happened before she left : what did you argue about an disagree about ? What else happened after she left, leading to her refusing further contact with you ?
When you say : "elke keer se bly by iemand" this suggests she has left you often before, and you know that it is usually to stay with someone else.  What sort of relationship do you guys usually have, if she keeps leaving you to stay with other people, and you keep  on accepting her back, until she leaves again ?
I don't know for sure, but if she has gone away without explanation, and you can't find her or contact her, perhaps you can report her to the police as a missing person.  Whether they will be able to help, or will bother to help, I don't know. If they find her,  and she is fine, and maybe says she has good reasons for leaving you, they probably won't be able to do anything more. 
You just mention the children : has she left them with you ? Or has she taken them with her ? In that case you would and legal advice as to your rights and the children's rights : you may be entitled to insist on proof that they are being well cared for in every way, as well as a right to see them and for them to have a right to see you.

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Posted by: Dee | 2017/12/18

Jy moes haar al lankal aan die polisie gerapoteer het. Ek neem aan sy het julle kinders by jou gelos of jy sou al lank al polisie toe gegaan het. Dit is nogsteeds nie reg nie, 'n ouer kan nie net weg hardloop en hulle kinders agter laat nie. Al wil sy nie meer saam met jou wees nie, het sy steeds verantwoordlikhede teenoor haar kinders wat sy moet na kom. Hou op wag en wonder wat jy moet doen om haar te pas, doen liewers wat jy kan om die situatasie onder beheer te kry. Skei haar dan kan sy rond loop soos sy lus kry en vind dan ook uit wat jy kan doen om te voorkom dat sy nie oor 'n jaar van nou by jou huis op daag en julle kinders van jou af probeer weg vat nie. Hou op om gee oor haar veiligheid en welstand, 'n vrou wat haar kinders so agter laat en verwerp is niemand se respek werd nie.

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