Home > Experts > Question Question Posted by: | 2013/11/27 I am not straight. I am not gay. And I don't think I'm bi. Am I alone? Is there help? I've asked this question a while ago on here, but it was never answered. I only got one negative comment. The problem is very real, so I'm asking it again. I am a young male in my twenties with a very difficult problem. I find women very attractive and arousing. Playing with their breasts, kissing them and caressing them all feels very natural, but I cannot get myself to have sex with woman - I get turned off by a vagina. On the other hand, I also find men attractive. While the idea of loving another man is a turn-off, seeing and playing with another man's penis is a turn-on. I especially like the game-play to get into a man's pants, to find out what his penis looks like (maybe compared to mine?). Is he well hung? Big balls? Circumcised? However, that's also where it stops, anal sex with a man (or woman) does not appeal to me. Why am I not normal? Do other people have the same problem? What can I do to change this? Can I change it at all? Not what you were looking for? Try searching again, or ask your own question 5 Our users say: Posted by: Anonymous | 2015/11/15 U might be a bisexual, but try and date one of them that can help you find who u r and what is your sexualit Reply to Anonymous Posted by: Anonymous | 2015/11/15 U might be a bisexual, but try and date one of them that can help you find who u r and what is your sexualit Reply to Anonymous Posted by: Jack | 2013/11/30 If you find a man's penis as a turn on and you are a man then you are pink, so gay. Reply to Jack Posted by: Anonymous | 2013/11/29 Perhaps you might be asexual. It's quite rare but you can find emerging research on this topic. I suggest asexual websites, especially the AVEN group. Reply to Anonymous Posted by: Kristina | 2013/11/29 I am no expert but this is very rare. I also have a friend going through this and she's really depressed being unsure of her sexuality. You are not alone. You can end up with either one. But, i suggest you keep experimenting and try to explore more deeply into your emotions and try to clear your mind about which gender you likely fall in love with. Try having a relationship with any gender of your choice. Dating may help. Reply to Kristina Have your say Your name (optional) Your comment Security × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Search health advice Find an answer × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Reply to Your name (optional) Your comment Security Close Submit comment Recently: Asked Questions Answered Questions Commented Questions Knee Cracking & poping appears after Run, Please advise Spasms in diaphrahm? Dokter. 'n Bontpoot borsluis het gister my kind gebyt. Ons het hom afgehaal en sover moontlik alle dele verwyder. Ek smeer oogsalf aan die plek. Waarvoor moet ek uitkyk en wat staan my verder te doen? Tmj/migraines/pulsating tinnitus/nystagmus Tmj or? To worry or not? I feel like Ive lost my ability to think objectively prt2 I feel like I've lost my ability to think objectively prt1 Spasms in diaphrahm? Neglect and emotional abuse of toddler Mad or crazy or Depressed maybe Hi im on depo for one month now and have gained 7kg despite of the fact that im using herbex slimming products.What can I di to stop the weight gain? Hormone Working for 4 years on Contract Not sure if my boyfriend is in our relationship My son is on a hunger strike because he got braces advertisement From our sponsors Managing diabetes in the workplace Back-to-school with diabetes Discover treatments that can help reduce acne What can I do to reduce or remove acne marks?