Our expert says:
I suppose one needs to continue calmly chatting with him about this, to get more information about exactly what is going wrong for him. Why would his previous friends no longer play with him ? Is it perhaps just that in a new school with a larger number of alternative pals, they have less need to play exclusively with him ? Have they changed drastically, or is he feeling insecure in the new school, and more dependent on old friendships ?
Being an only child and living out of town, he may be a bit more dependent than most mon the kids at school and the time at school, for play.
Its sweet, encouraging and commendable that he took the initiative in making the cards for his old friends - what a great kid ! Shame that they didn;t respond as helpfully.
What i9s actually happening when he says that the new friends he makes "hurt him" - hurt physically or emotionally, and how and apparently why ?
If the teacher says he has lots of friends, presumably her definition of "friends" is not his. I wonder whether he is less friended nowadays, or if he feels more needy, and less satisfied with the less close friendships that may be part of the new school ?
Have you chatted with the mothers of some of his old friends, that they can in turn chat with their kids, and find out what they think is happening, and what, if anything, has changed from their point of view ?
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