Our expert says:
Whether he wants or wanted the child it totally irrelevant from the legal point of view, as I'm sure the folks at the Maintenance COurt will tell you. A Court would still consider the best interests of the child, and would be very likely to require him to pay maintenance for the child. And once the court has ordered that, it is difficult for him to evade payment.
And maintenance is not tied to the issue of visitation etc - he must pay towards the costs of his child, whether or not he wants to or is allowed to, visit her.
Maintenance could help, as it should include an allowance towards the child's transport and the costs of someone to help look after her.
I don't see any necesary problem in letting your child meet a man friend of yours, so long as you don't encourage her to have unrealistic expectations of where the relationship might go, until it is very clear where if anywhere it is going.
You are NOT a bad parent, and if anyone says you are, they are hardly either accurate, well-informed, or a true friend.
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