Our expert says:
Its sad to hear of a marriage that was considered to have failed within 6 months - what was the great surprise that broke it up, the unbearable component they had no idea about when marrying ?
From your commnets, it sounds as though HE got custody of the children ? Its unusual for the husband to get custody, and for the wife to have such limited visitation rights - was there a good reason for this at the time ? If so, does it still apply or have the circumstances changed ?
Are the children specifically worried about wanting you back full-time, or at least wanting to see more of you ? Why is THAT not practical ?
Was the visitation rights, etc., decided after proper asessment by a court during the divorce ? Or just worked out between you ? If the latter, it might be worth going to court for a re-assessment of the situation, and you should consult a lawyer. With his new marriage having failed, he doesn't sound like an impregnably secure and ideal parent.
Men may of course be just as attached to the children as women, but for him to insist that he "would die without them" sounds unuually extreme. And giving them more access to you ( neither of you should ever forget the real issue is what is best for the kids ) is hardly him having to live without them.
COuld you at least persuade him that all these events are clearly upsetting the kids, and suggest that he arrange for them to see a counsellor, together, to help them ?
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