Our expert says:
Kids do play sexual exploratory games, and in terms o exploring each other and looking, its not unusla. But specific oral sex is unusual. Sounds like too many people were talking TO him, rather than WITH him, and hearing his thoughts and concerns. Guilt isn't a useful emotion.
Making too great a fuss and disgrace out of it is far more likely to cause harm to the kids than the actual acts themselves.
The broader point, which Maria also raises, is that though some kids can be creative in their play, there's a real possibility that at least one of the kids were exposed to such behaviour in the first place, by someone else an older kid or an adult.
Gentle discussion with him at times when its less of a guilt trip and crisis, may help to gently reveal if any such thing happened, which would need attention in its own right. Any reasonable suspicion that either or both might have been molested would make individual counselling from a child psychologist an appropriate referral. I'd hope that the school psychologist was aware of this possibility and would have already gently checked for this.
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