Our expert says:
Hi there Mrs L,
Actually, in my experience, some rather nice men indeed ARE that concerned. And as gynae's or oncologists and similar doctors often don't discuss the sexual aspect of treatment etc properly with patients and their partners, some guys really are concerned that they mayhurt you or damage / harm you if they engage in sex. Some men have a surpisingly misty set of concepts of the female sex organs and how they function or dysfunction. Ask your doctor to discuss this frankly with your partner. And of course, if he recently had a heart attack, it's not surprising that he might want to be very cautious about sex for his own sake, too.
And least likely of all to be unfaithful - sensible men remember, not only all the usual reasons why cheating is a really bad idea, but for men with heart problems, it's a common situation in which they can have a further heart attack ( or worse ) while cheating.
As for depression, having a heart attack, alone, can cause sadness and depression, and some of the drugs that can be used to treat the heart may add to that effect ; but one would have to check this with his treating / prescribing doc to see what he's on and whether this potential is relevant. And of course depression very commonly causes a loss of libido, so that could also explain his loss of interest in sex.
Don't tgell him to snap out of it, please - it's like someone telling you to snap out of your endometriosis.
This depression certainly can and usually does get better, but if he is responding as unwisely as quitting a good job, he needs proper treatment, ideally to see a local psychiatrist for assessment and treatment, with medication and also ask about someone to provide CBT counselling to help relieve the depression and help him to cope better.
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